Ever notice how some people have to make a comment about something no matter what, you know the type, you give a presentation and they have to tell you how they can do it better, or where you went wrong. You write an article and they have to comment on it, even if they have no understanding of the article. It’s like a disease, one that forces them to prop themselves up by pushing others down. I have dealt with people like that, worked with them, have been friends with them and been in meetings with them. To me it truly is a sickness, and I pray that I don’t have it and will never get it.
People like this would tell God himself that he needed to work on his communication skills a little. The fact that they have to find something, anything really be it real or made-up to complain about, some way to belittle you is just odd to me. Now I will give my honest opinion concerning someone, if they ask me, but I would never make something up nor would I offer it with being asked, and depending on whom it is, and the time and place, I may not offer any insights. But others seem to think it is always the correct time and place regardless to whom they are talking to.
Now please understand that I see nothing wrong with stating where someone may have failed, were they may have slipped up, but only if it is useful to them. Why bother to state a failure if it will serve no positive outcome? This has always bothered me, from elementary school until now, and will most likely until I die. But now I feel a little better, I have gotten it off my chest, for the time being…
So the next time you feel the urge to let someone know they did a bad job on that report or speech, stop and ask yourself the following questions:
1. Did they ask me to comment?
2. Will it serve a positive outcome?
3. Am I “just looking for” a fault, or is it real?
Before you speak, stop, think and take a deep breath… Remember one day it may be you that is getting the same treatment…