Extreme #1: Is change always a good thing, must I always be growing?
Extreme #2: I stop growing, and I’m dead, change is a constant.
I reality there are really two types of people in the world, ones the are always on the move, and ones that are always standing still, yes I know that people fall between the 2 extremes, but for this blog I need to look at the extremes, because in someway we are one or the other.
The extremes are how most of us describe ourselves, me I am a #2 extreme, my sister; she would be a #1. Me I see change and growth as exciting and challenging, my sister, she see change as bother, and somewhat scary, me, well I like the unknown, its makes life, well, worth living.
Now to be honest, I am not always growing, unless you consider my waist size… And my sister is not always standing still, once again what I am talking about are the extremes, the label that would best describe myself. In truth I would fall somewhere near it, but not dead on it. If we where to say Extreme #1 was a value of 1 and Extreme #2 was a value of 10, I would be an 8 and my sister would be a 2.
We can create extremes for most any aspect of our life, any defining attribute, such as Liberal or Conservative, Me I am a conservative as is my sister, but she is more extreme then I am, but we both are conservative, where as my friend is a liberal, but not as extreme as some. If I where to rate them, with Liberal being 1 and Conservative being 10, I would be an 8, my sister would be a 9 and my friend would be a 4.
Why am I doing this, what point am I trying to make, what lesson am I teaching…
We need to define ourselves, and in order to do that, we need to know where we stand, and where we want to go, and the labels in life help us do that, gives us standards to base it all on.
We may not like the label, but if we are honest with ourselves they will serve us well.
So go ahead and label yourself, and rate yourself, based on the 2 extremes, be honest and you will learn who you are, and have a better idea of where you want to go.
Here are some examples of extremes:
Parent à Friend
Liberal à Conservative
Dynamic à Static
Introvert à Extravert
You can do it with any extreme, but you have to take a good hard look at yourself, and be honest, even if it hurts.
Start a journal of extreme ratings, one a month choose one of the extremes and rate yourself, have a friend or family member rate you, then use the month to try to change the extreme, set a goal and chart a path, journal about it and watch the changes happen. At the end of the month reevaluate yourself, and the same friend or family member do the same, and chart it in your journal.
Change is always happening, the only condition that in never constant is our involvement in the change. So become active in the process, and growth will follow.