The death of 15-year-old Jaime Gonzalez has shaken this neighborhood along the U.S.-Mexico border, where parents already burdened by economic woes and street gangs are now faced with explaining the tragedy to their children.
Making it especially hard: It remains unclear to his parents and investigators why Jaime — a drum major who danced in his church’s annual religious festival, stayed out of gangs and had two parents who closely watched him — could swerve off course and bring a weapon to school. The weapon, police later determined, was a pellet gun. (link)
Reading this article makes me think about many things. The sadness the parents and friends must feel, the questions it opens and the wounds that will never heal. It makes me think about the questioning and second guessing the officers must be going thru, did we have to shoot to kill, did we do the right thing. It makes me wounded what was going on in the head of this young man, whom, by all reports I have read, seems like a normal 15 year old, staying clean and out of trouble.
It’s a sad story, and I truly feel for the parents and all involved, I pray for the young mans soul, and that God will have mercy on him. But I feel that there is more to the story, that we are missing something…. I’m not say he was not a good boy, or that that parents were not good parents, but there is something missing…
I would have to say that most likely what was missing was community, safety and security with in the community. we all have hear that is take a village to raise a child, and its true. Think about it, we spend more time outside of the family than we do in it, as a school aged young man, he spent more hours away from home than in the home. Be it at the school or hanging out with friends. And that is as it should be, that is how a young man becomes a man. But the dynamics of that “village” plays a roll, a very big roll…
The village is not a physical location as much as it is a concept. The boundaries of the village grow and the youth grows, as a 8 year old, his village most likely was school and home, maybe daycare. His friends were local and his parents had more control over who he played with and not. As he grew, so did his village, as a 15 year old his village would now include more physical space, able to go more places and hang with more types of people. His school becomes just one of many places with in the village. And his parents influence is, to some degree, less than the influence of his friends. And all this is as it should be, the process of growing up, and becoming a young man.
It is this force that helps shape the boy into a man, and by all accounts it seemed to be doing a fine job. So what happen, what made this young man bring a gun, all-be-it a harmless gun, but still a gun, to school. What possessed him to run thru the halls, refusing to put it down? All questions we will never know the answer to. Sad… Very sad…
But now this is were faith comes in, the parents must have faith that they did the best they could, that they did not let there son down, and faith that God, in HIs own way, will make it all clear to them. But we must also examine the village, and see were, if any, safety nets may have failed. Was there a sign that was over looked, was he crying for help, but know one noticed, or cared to take action. Just questions…
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I am doing something I have never done before, I am going on vacation to Germany. Sure I have been there many times, for work, but never just for vacation. I leave in 2 days, and the days can not move fast enough for me!
This is a trip of a life time for me, I am going to fly into Koln, visit a few friends and than with a good friend of mine and his wife we will be driving to Berlin. So not only am I going to Germany for vacation, I am also meeting up with my good friends! Life is good!
But truth be told, the timing is, well lets just say it could be better. When I book my vacation I expected to be an “empty nester” so to speak, but as plans work out, this was not to be. The one who was to be off at collage ended-up staying home (and for that I am truly happy, but that’s another posting). Not only do I have my one, but I seemed to have gained another. And I am grateful for this, but the timing is less than perfect.
As many may know and some may not, I am currently in bankruptcy, so the planning of this trip was difficult under the best situation, but doable… My flight was free, all miles earned from work trips, the stay in Koln and Berlin is free and the expenses in Germany minable. So it was a perfect trip…
I should have known….
Child number one, who was to be off in Texas, well lets just say, the best laid plans don’t always work out. He was to go and live with his dad and attend school there. I was never for this move, his dad is well, not truly a father in any way shape or form. But he was dead set on this move, so moving was what was to happen. Thru Gods graces, his did showed his true colors and the move did not take place. That was ok, my plans were still doable. But than his did truly shined and refused to sign for his student grants…. BAM! Money spent I did not plan for…
But my trip was still on, the ticket was printed and waiting…
Hit number two came in the form of a 17 year old looking for stability, and choosing to find it in my home… Gaining guardianship was hit number two… BAM!
Both my boys are truly blessings to me, and I would not change a thing… But the timing was just off a bit… Such is life…
This trip will be what it will be, and the bills will get paid, maybe late a few days or so, but paid and the boys have a safe and happy home. Life is good!
I just wish their was a way I could have know all this before I booked my trip. But knowing me, I would not have booked it, so maybe in the long run it all worked out for the best. God knows me well and he knows what I need and when I need it.
So Koln and Berlin, here I come!
Until I return, September 20th, I wish you all the blessings of heaven and earth.
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